If the baby is still very small, it does not know how to speak and understands only individual words, it is clear that to explain to him something - it will be superfluous. With all the wishes, the crumb just does not understand you. And this, in my opinion, the perfect option. Of course, you will be unrealistic difficult to stay with the baby on your hands without the support of your husband. But for a child it will be best. He will not have unpleasant memories associated with the divorce of parents. Children are very worried about such moments. Therefore, let the best baby just nothing to remember.
If a child is already 2-3 years old and more, he may not understand what divorce is, but it will definitely notice the absence of one of the parents. Most likely - will call him and cry. The most important thing in this situation is excerpt and patience. By the way, there are many cases when, because of the baby, parents converged again and lived together for a long time and happily. But if you firmly decided to divorce your second half, take patience. Never with a child do not scold dad / mom. Do not tell what he is bad, threw us, etc. Do not instill a child hatred to father / mother. The baby is not to blame for the fact that adults made a mistake.
It often happens that children after the divorce of parents go to themselves, begin to lag in development, throw school. You do not want such a situation in your family, right? Then you need to remember only 2 rules:
- Do not find out the relationship with the spouse in front of the child.
- Do not prohibit the father / mother to meet with the baby.
It is clear that few spouses are bred and remain after that friends. Basically, the divorce is accompanied by mutual reproaches, daily scandals and constant insults. Even if the divorce flows in your family exactly the way, find out the relationship with alone. Do not dedicate a child to your problems. He will be so difficult to survive the divorce of the parents. No need to exacerbate the situation.
Again, if you do not want to see your spouse anymore, it does not mean that your baby adheres to the same opinion. After the divorce of parents, the child will be hard to get used to that mom and dad now live separately. He loves you both, loves equally. Do not deprive him of this feeling. Let him meet and communicate with both parents. This is especially important at first after the divorce. Give the child to get used to the fact that mom and dad do not live together anymore.
Naturally, you are hard now. Very hard. Divorce - favorable procedure. Just understand your baby is now even worse. He simply does not understand why mom / dad leaves. Talk to Croha. Quietly, intelligibly explain to the child what divorce is. Let me understand that you both still love him.
If you do everything right, very soon and you, and your baby will smile again. Children are hardly worried about the divorce of parents, but if they help them, if you correctly explain the child a divorce, it is likely that many problems will be able to avoid.
And let the tips from this article you will never need. Let your family life be bright, bright and carefree!